Leaders Learn

Never was I struck by the obstacle of ego more than with a recent group I was coaching.  Some members were so mired down by the need to hold onto control that they failed to look beyond what they already knew.  In so doing, they fought for being “right” and missed key opportunities to propel themselves to the richer, fuller …

In Two Minds

It may sound odd to say that HOW we think affects WHAT we think and that now, more than ever, we all need to understand certain cognitive processes.  Multiple studies over this past decade have explored the dual-process concepts of how we think.   Have you ever been talking with someone (in person or even on Social Media) and the …

Give It Up!

We all have something we’ve hung onto for too long.  Maybe you have a habit.  Maybe you even have a resolution… a New Year’s resolution from four or five years ago… maybe yours is a “someday” kind of thing.  It’s time to give it up. Yes, really.  As your advisor I’m saying that if you’ve hung onto something for this …

Fore! Leadership Lessons On Par

From the fifth floor, my hotel room balcony looked over the 17th hole of a pretty difficult golf course.  The water hazard was big enough to allow boats their passage, though only waterfowl frequented this one.   I’m not much of a golfer, but I do know a good stance and positive intent when I see it.  That all looks …

I wish I could…!

I wish I could just wave a magic wand and have all of this done for me.  We humans wish a lot.  We want things done for us while we take action in the opposite direction quite often.  We’ll wish to lose weight, become more fit, speak a new language, have more money, take more vacations, etc.  And then, we …

Have You Had Enough?

If you’re like a lot of people, you’re happy to put 2016 behind you.  Wow, so much bad stuff happened.   There are fewer of us, it seems, who feel like we gave a lot to 2016 and it gave a lot back.  We look at what happened and don’t judge it as bad or good, necessarily.  We simply acknowledge …

Getting It Wrong

I just got a great big lesson and I’m wondering if you get these too – It’s so rare that this happens and yet, it seems that every time I get mad about the way I’ve been treated, I get it wrong.  And then I say or do something that isn’t living from my best Self.   Deep down I …

Two Skills For Success

The two skills that every leader needs for success can be practiced, refined, and honed.  I’d like to assume that because you’ve found me and this precious space of Wednesdays With Wayne that you’re probably already pretty good at one of them. The first is the place from which you build trust.  It is only when you say what you …

NOT a Status Symbol

Busy is NOT something to boast about.  Though it may feel good to work through lists or chug through your day, imagine an alternative answer to the question, “Hey how’re you doing?” Oh, dang, I’ve been really busy – things are really busy here I’m feeling really great, so grounded after taking some time for myself We’re all so busy, …

Whoops! We Fell Off!!!

It’s possible that last week, you said a word of thanks before diving into your large, over-mounded Thanksgiving Day plate.  It’s likely that you ate, and then ate that bit more.  And then with a sigh, you muttered your resolutions for the rest of the year, knowing that more indulgence just might be headed your way.  As Black-Friday and then …