Ah, You’ll Have to Excuse Me
There’s been a lot of drama in my life lately. An extraordinary amount. That doesn’t show up in how I engage with others, nor does it become a factor in how I discern what gets done and what doesn’t.
But my life didn’t used to be that way.
I used to rely on the drama. Life was overwhelming and if a friend or family member had a problem, then I – the good superhero martyr – would be the one to fix it.
And then, when I didn’t hit my goals, I’d have a perfectly good reason/excuse. And I’d demand that you understand. “You’ll have to excuse me, I’ve been dealing with…”
There were times I’d hold all that in, as if it were a hidden trump card to play at some time. All the better if someone else let out what kind of drama I was dealing with. Oh woe is me, my life is so hard.
The truth is two-fold:
- You never really know what someone else is going through, so show some compassion, and
- Drama and excuses don’t make up for the truth. I made choices about where to put my energy. And the truth is, you are too.
Every day, you’re choosing where to spend the energy you have for that day. Are you spending it on someone else’s drama? Are you spending it on creating your own drama? Or are you investing it in yourself – in your growth or in your rejuvenation?
“I’ll try my best” is a good indicator that a lie is brewing. It’s not a commitment, it’s an excuse.
I watched a high-powered professional let people know how much work they needed to be doing and that they shouldn’t be at this social event, and then stay for hours. Do the work or don’t talk about it. Be present socially and choose not to do the work. Or, better still, step up as the leader you are and ask for help with the skills you need to develop for getting clear, managing your energy, having the courage to state the truth, developing skills (and using proven hacks) to put more time in your day, and strengthening your communication skills so that others lean in to support you vs. merely tolerating the noise of drama that you’re creating.
Think about all of that.
If that’s you, we should talk.
If that’s someone you know, there’s help available and/or you can make choices about how much engagement you want to actually have with that person.
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Stay curious and keep making your magic!
= Wayne =