Proving Your Worth

We’ve just passed Valentine’s Day and I will share that this particular “holiday” used to cause me a lot of concern and stress. It felt like a test of some sort. Like I had to get it “right.” 

 

I felt like I’d be judged by my wife at the time, like my family and friends might also find what I had done adequate or lacking, thereby reflecting on me – as a human or at least as a husband – as adequate or lacking in some way.

 

Decades have passed and I’ve come to recognize how commercial holidays are just that and that in demonstrating the value of a relationship all year long, one day isn’t going to make or break it. 

 

As we come through any of the holidays, so pretty much every day, it’s important to reflect on how you think about yourself in the world, at work, at home, in every single one of your relationships. 

 

Do you feel like you’re in a position of having to prove your worth?

Or, do you know your worth and confidently engage in any situation? How are you at networking events, in new social situations, or with your family or extended family?

 

Ultimately, whose approval do you really need? 

When you stop seeking approval from others, you become more valuable to them.

 

The key here is that when you stop seeking approval from others, you become more valuable to yourself.

 

I don’t require the approval of others. 

Yes, I love hearing clients tell me that I’ve changed their lives. I LOVE it. I don’t require it.

I love it when random people tell me that they love my energy or vibe. I’m not joyful to get a positive response from others; I’m not seeking random people’s approval. It feels good. I don’t live my life for that (anymore).

 

And I don’t hold back giving myself things that will bring me joy or help make my life easier in some way. There’s no more negotiating with myself about what I need to accomplish in order to “earn” a certain thing. 

 

I already know that I’m worth it. 

In fact, I give myself gifts on purpose as a way of showing self-worth. It’s not about proof anymore. It’s about personal validation. 

 

Take a moment to reflect on any area where you’ve felt as though you’ve had to prove your worth. At work? In your relationship? With extended family? In marketing what you do? In your own head about yourself??? 

 

You no longer have to prove to yourself or anyone else that you’re worth it. Whatever it is, you ARE worth it. 

 

And by this time of year, you’ve likely put aside any New Year’s resolutions that you made. That’s cool. Chunk the goal down. If you want to get there, take small steps. 

Why? Yeah, because you’re worth it.

 

Keep making your magic!

 

= Wayne = 

 

If you’re curious about my signature retreat, the Exponential Success Summit, it’s coming up April 28 and 29 in Hollywood, CA. There’s an application process and we’re approaching a waitlist (which may mean you’ll be looking at October’s event). 

The format is different, and this is exclusively by application or invitation only. 

So IF – get clear about this – IF you are serious about making some massive leaps in your life in 2023 and want to be considered as one of the few at the table, please message me privately. This isn’t for everyone. But if it’s for you, reach out.