What if Love Really IS the Answer?

The good news is that today’s Wednesdays With Wayne is not dipping into the Hallmark Holiday space. That said, I do want to point you towards the idea of loving more.

 

At home, at work, and in the world – lead with love. Love more.

 

You probably love your partner if you have one. You love your children if you have them. Those are obvious. (And it’s okay, you may not like them all the time, but you love them.)

 

Love is pure and allows for imperfections. That is, you might not love everything about the person, animal, or situation you’re in. You can still love. I don’t like cleaning my cat’s litter box. I love my cat (there, I’ve said it). And if you have a dog, you’re not likely to love carrying the little pooper bags around on the walk. But still, you love your dog.

 

What about your work? Are you connected to the Vision so strongly that you feel pulled by it? No? Let’s work on that. No matter your role, there are people watching how you engage with others and with your tasks at hand. You are role-modeling the way for others. And if you drag in, treating your work like it’s the worst thing to greet you, it means one of two things: You’re either in the wrong job or you’re in the job wrong. Either way, fix it.

 

You don’t have to love every task to feel the strong bond to the vision. (That’s actually a choice, by the way. We’ll talk about choosing your emotions in another Wednesdays With Wayne post.) 

 

Just think about how you lead. What would happen if you treated everything in front of you as if you were about to go on a date with it? Strange concept, I know. Let’s take it to the absurd place for a moment so that you can think as strangely as I do. You go to a restaurant, you open the menu, and what if instead of sorting through the pages as if it’s a checklist of what’s in or what’s out, what if you opened the menu as if it were a date you were meeting. You could read all of the interesting things on those pages so differently.

 

And what if it’s a spreadsheet at work? Is it possible to do the same?

Well, you could feel like that’s the one task associated with having a dog that you just don’t like. I mean, your spreadsheet could be a task to get through while keeping in mind that the big picture is, in fact, bigger. Or, you could decide that you’re going to approach this task anew. 

 

Does LOVE really belong at work? Yes, yes it does. I have eleven core-values for my business and Love is one of them. I want it to permeate all that I do and I want the people with whom I work to feel it. And that includes you, dear reader, I hope you feel it here too.

 

There is one more place that I’d encourage love and that’s with yourself. Give yourself some grace. Give yourself some love. Don’t tell yourself things (I’m lazy, stupid, fat, etc.) that you wouldn’t scream at your grandmother. You wouldn’t shout those things to someone else, stop diminishing who you are with self-talk that derails you.

 

Love, grace, kindness. We’re all a little raw right now. The earth is a weird planet to be on right now. And still, out of the eight billion people here, you matter. Who you are matters.

 

My writing is meant to share some concepts and get you to think a bit differently. I ask a lot of questions. And you know, what if love really IS the answer?

 

Be amazing today. Keep making your magic.

See you here next week. 

 

= Wayne = 

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