Your SECRET Life

You know, I have you in mind as I sit here at my keyboard. I really want you to see how all of my writing can be applied both in your business life and personally. 

Just for fun, think about how and where your business life overlaps with your personal life. Then, go back, pick a random Wednesdays With Wayne, and see how it applies in both areas of your life!

Okay, let’s dive into this week’s concept. I’ve written about how you find purpose, how you make your identity, and what happens when it’s threatened. 

Your identity feels at risk when you believe some piece of your integrity is threatened. What happens to you when people engage with you, and they don’t know all that you’re capable of. There is some power in being underestimated. 

Here’s where you have an advantage in keeping a secret. YOU know the truth. The other person doesn’t know the truth about you. 

It’s funny. Odd, I mean. There are so many times I’ve seen outrage at the person who has underestimate another person. The person felt slighted, and then I’d watch one of two polar opposite responses: Either the one who was slighted would shrink inside and become less or they would become indignant and “politely” over-correct of the “wrong doer.” It’s as if, by being misunderstood or underestimated, the other person somehow has the power to diminish your value. Nope, only if you love the Victim role. “Poor me, so misunderstood.”

To those in that state, I’d say, snap out of it. You know who you are. 

The question then is this: Do you need to prove it? That would imply seeking approval from someone outside of yourself. And the work – your food-for-thought – this week is to look at where, when, and with whom do you feel like you need to prove something? Might you, instead, have a simple conversation about expectations or desires? “Hey, I’d love it if you knew that not only do I do coaching in my DynamicLeader® Inc. consultancy, I also do organization and management development.” That’s not a “darn it, why don’t people know xyz about me?” moment. That’s a take-charge moment.

It's an adult approach.

You have a secret: your hidden talents. You can choose to share them or hold them as a secret until ready to expose them. There’s power in choosing. Don’t give that away in some tantrum of indignance. Feeling underestimated or undervalued? Maybe, just maybe, the other person isn’t judging you, they just aren’t aware of how capable you – and your team – really are! 

Let ‘em know!

Keep making your magic and I’ll see you here next week!

= Wayne = 

P.S. Have you watched the Powerful Presence masterclass? It’s forty-seven minutes and no-cost. Take a look by clicking the link and scrolling to mid-page! Enjoy!